Dating a recently divorced dad dating band member
My men’s group experienced 5 divorces in a scant few years. He is like a roller coaster and right now I have ended things until he gets his life sorted out. I wish that I would have listened more clearly to a wonderful friend and therapist I met on d360.I can't stand the ups and downs with the guilt and self loathing he feels. She warned me against putting myself out there only to leave a trail of bodies in my wake.I was shocked that she was so conscious of the pitfalls of dating newly divorced men until I realized she had probably learned her lessons the hard way. Run, don’t walk away from a man who just left a relationship. Stay home and think about your part in the recently failed relationship.Find another man or men who you can trust and talk with them about how you’re feeling.Only a woman who has been living in a cave for a decade would be remotely interested in dating this fellow who acts first, thinks second, and then, maybe, feels third.
When the pain surfaces resist stuffing it back down and allow it to filter into your heart, after which it can work its way to your brain in the form of lessons learned. I fought hard for two yrs and in hindsight I shouldve just let it go then and there!! I am currently dating a man (he pursued me right after his separation) and right after my separation too. Our relationship is great except he is having MAJOR issues getting over the guilt of leaving his marriage (even though he knows it was what he wanted).Feel the pain you are must be experiencing after a divorce.Or live in denial instead and inflict yourself on the next woman you can convince you are over your divorce already.I love her as much today as I did when I had to walk away almost two years ago.I am working on trying to let it all go and just have a fond memory of us. I dated a couple of women but let them know early that I was unable to feel anything more than friendship for them.
I have known several women who have had the misfortune of dating newly divorced men.