Slow things down dating
I encouraged my client to not be afraid of making a move physically, and, if his date doesn’t reciprocate, sit her down for a heart to heart.
Heart to heart discussions, to me, REVEAL feelings, they don’t DICTATE feelings.
She mentioned that the last time she felt this sort of passion she got hurt.
Ok, I said I understand and we can take it slow and I certainly don’t want to do anything that’s going to make you uncomfortable.
Still, I want to caution men out there with the same exact advice I’d give to women if a woman is not sleeping with you, if a woman is not committing to you, if a woman is not making an effort for you, the odds are that she is just not that into you.
You can make all the excuses in the world about "taking it slow", but people who are excited about each other rarely take it slow. You’d like to move things along physically, but are willing to respect her wishes, as long as you know that you’re in an exclusive relationship.
I finally figured out that what she needed to know was why I was choosing her instead of any of the millions of girls in the city.
And your advice on the phone has always been spot-on.
Thanks again for your priceless advice, I couldn’t be happier!
As long as you’re reasonable and not attacking, you’re just gonna get your answer by being direct. (Her last boyfriend she moved in with after two months!
) Anyway, I get into the whole bit about how I needed to know where this was going, and we talked for a while about why we hadn’t had sex yet and why she felt like we didn’t know each other.
Thankfully, he struck just the right tone in his heart-to-heart where he learned that this was not the case.